Causes of Divorce
It is said that happy families are the same, while miserable families have respective causes. Not all marriages fail for the same reason. Nor is there usually one reason for the breakdown of a particular marriage. Nevertheless, in general the following causes of divorce are mentioned more often than others. They are: poor communication, financial problems, a lack of commitment to the marriage, differences in culture, sexual or emotional abuse and a lack of responsibilities.
It is amazing that the above mentioned causes of divorce are slightly similar with those listed in the Bible. The Bible says, “God hates divorce” (Mal.2:16).
According to the Bible, the first cause is money. The Bible says that the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. (I Timothy 6:10). The uncontrolled desire for money will lead to a temptation, a snare and into many and foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition, and pierce themselves through with many sorrows. Money is the number one cause of broken homes.
Second is alcohol. There is a popular sign that reads: Alcohol Destroys Internally, Externally, and Eternally.
The Third is sexual problems. The sex pendulum is swung from one extreme to the other. We talk as freely of sex as we talk of politics. Improper attitudes about sex, and not physical causes, bring couples to the breaking point. Both those who regard sex as being acceptable outside of marriage, as well as those who think of sex as dirty and wrong within marriage, are equally guilty of maintaining attitudes which are destined to cause serious trouble to any family relationship.
The Fourth is immaturity. Married life is for adults, not for children. Immaturity is the fourth leading cause of broken homes. There is an age when we are not sure about anything. A toy may be ever so much fun one day, and discarded the next. Much of this same uncertainty goes with the person through adolescence with regard to marriage.
The Fifth is jealousy. One who demands exclusive devotion, and is intolerant of rivalry usually feels inadequate. If one finds himself caught in the clutches of this weakness, he needs to concentrate on self-improvement. Next is related to in-laws. “Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife. And they shall be one flesh.” It is from God’s words in Genesis Chapter 2, verse 24. Every couple should establish their own home away from parents. Last is irresponsibility. When a young man is irresponsible and unwilling to work before marriage, the chances are extremely good that he’ll continue the same pattern of behavior after marriage. In the same way the young lady who has shown no sense of personal responsibility before marriage will likely also be unwilling to do her part in containing the home after marriage.
Identifying the major causes of divorce will prevent us from making mistakes. In fact, when people ask about causes of divorce, they’re not necessarily asking about what causes divorce. Often, what they really want to know is how to improve their relationship and avoid causes of divorce in their marriage. Do not make a fuss on the reasons of bad relationship, instead, try to deepen and strengthen a marriage with your efforts and behavior.