Causes of Divorce
It is said that happy families are the same, while miserable families have respective causes. Not all marriages fail for the same reason. Nor is there usually one reason for the breakdown of a particular marriage. Nevertheless, in general the following causes of divorce are mentioned more often than others. They are: poor communication, financial problems, a lack of commitment to the marriage, differences in culture, sexual or emotional abuse and a lack of responsibilities.
It is amazing that the above mentioned causes of divorce are slightly similar with those listed in the Bible. The Bible says, “God hates divorce” (Mal.2:16).
According to the Bible, the first cause is money. The Bible says that the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. (I Timothy 6:10). The uncontrolled desire for money will lead to a temptation, a snare and into many and foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition, and pierce themselves through with many sorrows. Money is the number one cause of broken homes.
Second is alcohol. There is a popular sign that reads: Alcohol Destroys Internally, Externally, and Eternally.
The Third is sexual problems. The sex pendulum is swung from one extreme to the other. We talk as freely of sex as we talk of politics. Improper attitudes about sex, and not physical causes, bring couples to the breaking point. Both those who regard sex as being acceptable outside of marriage, as well as those who think of sex as dirty and wrong within marriage, are equally guilty of maintaining attitudes which are destined to cause serious trouble to any family relationship.
The Fourth is immaturity. Married life is for adults, not for children. Immaturity is the fourth leading cause of broken homes. There is an age when we are not sure about anything. A toy may be ever so much fun one day, and discarded the next. Much of this same uncertainty goes with the person through adolescence with regard to marriage.
The Fifth is jealousy. One who demands exclusive devotion, and is intolerant of rivalry usually feels inadequate. If one finds himself caught in the clutches of this weakness, he needs to concentrate on self-improvement. Next is related to in-laws. “Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife. And they shall be one flesh.” It is from God’s words in Genesis Chapter 2, verse 24. Every couple should establish their own home away from parents. Last is irresponsibility. When a young man is irresponsible and unwilling to work before marriage, the chances are extremely good that he’ll continue the same pattern of behavior after marriage. In the same way the young lady who has shown no sense of personal responsibility before marriage will likely also be unwilling to do her part in containing the home after marriage.
Identifying the major causes of divorce will prevent us from making mistakes. In fact, when people ask about causes of divorce, they’re not necessarily asking about what causes divorce. Often, what they really want to know is how to improve their relationship and avoid causes of divorce in their marriage. Do not make a fuss on the reasons of bad relationship, instead, try to deepen and strengthen a marriage with your efforts and behavior.
Category : Divorce
Will
11 months ago
These comments are two years old, is anyone out there?
alexis
11 months ago
i think that love is a waste of time.
Apothecary
8 months ago
It maybe nit picking. The relevance of priority order of marriage failures would have been better put forth not by a loose connection to a Bible reference but, by statistics and hard facts. There’s just a severe lacking of credibility and cohesion within this article.
As illustrated by, “Nevertheless, in general the following causes of divorce are mentioned more often than others. They are: poor communication, financial problems, a lack of commitment to the marriage, differences in culture, sexual or emotional abuse and a lack of responsibilities”
Fallowed only by the elaboration of “financial” problems and commitment to the marriage. It then lists 3 seperate points that, “Second is alcohol. There is a popular sign that reads: Alcohol Destroys Internally, Externally, and Eternally.”
Great! there is a sign somewhere that has a catchphrase on it but, let’s forget the Bible verse that reads Psalm 104:14-15 states that God gives wine “that makes glad the heart of men.” of course there are more than just that and there are more in the Bible that shun it. The point being is it’s not a great source of information when making a point. There’s God’s word saying one thing in a positive way 15 times about drinking and another about the bad 75 times in the same book. I’m just saying if that’s an authority on how to live then it needs to be clear in what it says and have credibility behind what is written. A sign is nothing more than a sign.
The third point “Both those who regard sex as being acceptable outside of marriage, as well as those who think of sex as dirty and wrong within marriage, are equally guilty of maintaining attitudes which are destined to cause serious trouble to any family relationship” here again is there any statistics that show avid religious practisioners i.e. the one’s who praise their practises so much that they reguard sex as dirty as having more failed marriages than those who don’t. Is there proof that polyamorous relationships fail more often then monogamious? It’s an opinion that to you this is why it fails. I would argue this is where immaturity (which was one of the points touched on loosely and pertained to age as opposed to actual mental maturity) plays in. If two mature people get together and are agreeable to the extent that no sex or sex outside of marriage is okay then those two people are probably actually okay with it.
Anyway, just mainly trying to share sequitor view vs a non sequitor one.
Modern Man
6 months ago
The information on this page is highly old-fashioned as if the author has lived in a cave since those guys have written, developed and changed the words of Bible.
My message for him/her isto wake up and look around yourself. Live with reality.
amber
4 months ago
miscommunication!
Cybervang
3 months ago
Marriage is an illusion. A temporary solution to a fantasy of sexual convenience and security. Once you have a child with them and complete what mother nature intended, they are bored of you. Almost anything you say or do can and will annoy them. Eventually it’s over and both move on to a new greener pasture with new things to eat and reproduce.
Darwin’s Theory holds true.