Causes of Divorce



It is said that happy families are the same, while miserable families have respective causes. Not all marriages fail for the same reason. Nor is there usually one reason for the breakdown of a particular marriage. Nevertheless, in general the following causes of divorce are mentioned more often than others. They are: poor communication, financial problems, a lack of commitment to the marriage, differences in culture, sexual or emotional abuse and a lack of responsibilities.

It is amazing that the above mentioned causes of divorce are slightly similar with those listed in the Bible. The Bible says, “God hates divorce” (Mal.2:16).

According to the Bible, the first cause is money. The Bible says that the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. (I Timothy 6:10). The uncontrolled desire for money will lead to a temptation, a snare and into many and foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition, and pierce themselves through with many sorrows. Money is the number one cause of broken homes.

Second is alcohol. There is a popular sign that reads: Alcohol Destroys Internally, Externally, and Eternally.

The Third is sexual problems. The sex pendulum is swung from one extreme to the other. We talk as freely of sex as we talk of politics. Improper attitudes about sex, and not physical causes, bring couples to the breaking point. Both those who regard sex as being acceptable outside of marriage, as well as those who think of sex as dirty and wrong within marriage, are equally guilty of maintaining attitudes which are destined to cause serious trouble to any family relationship.

The Fourth is immaturity. Married life is for adults, not for children. Immaturity is the fourth leading cause of broken homes. There is an age when we are not sure about anything. A toy may be ever so much fun one day, and discarded the next. Much of this same uncertainty goes with the person through adolescence with regard to marriage.

The Fifth is jealousy. One who demands exclusive devotion, and is intolerant of rivalry usually feels inadequate. If one finds himself caught in the clutches of this weakness, he needs to concentrate on self-improvement. Next is related to in-laws. “Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife. And they shall be one flesh.” It is from God’s words in Genesis Chapter 2, verse 24. Every couple should establish their own home away from parents. Last is irresponsibility. When a young man is irresponsible and unwilling to work before marriage, the chances are extremely good that he’ll continue the same pattern of behavior after marriage. In the same way the young lady who has shown no sense of personal responsibility before marriage will likely also be unwilling to do her part in containing the home after marriage.

Identifying the major causes of divorce will prevent us from making mistakes. In fact, when people ask about causes of divorce, they’re not necessarily asking about what causes divorce. Often, what they really want to know is how to improve their relationship and avoid causes of divorce in their marriage. Do not make a fuss on the reasons of bad relationship, instead, try to deepen and strengthen a marriage with your efforts and behavior.


Category : Divorce

10 Comments → “Causes of Divorce”


  1. Will

    3 years ago

    These comments are two years old, is anyone out there?


  2. alexis

    3 years ago

    i think that love is a waste of time.


  3. Apothecary

    3 years ago

    It maybe nit picking. The relevance of priority order of marriage failures would have been better put forth not by a loose connection to a Bible reference but, by statistics and hard facts. There’s just a severe lacking of credibility and cohesion within this article.
    As illustrated by, “Nevertheless, in general the following causes of divorce are mentioned more often than others. They are: poor communication, financial problems, a lack of commitment to the marriage, differences in culture, sexual or emotional abuse and a lack of responsibilities”
    Fallowed only by the elaboration of “financial” problems and commitment to the marriage. It then lists 3 seperate points that, “Second is alcohol. There is a popular sign that reads: Alcohol Destroys Internally, Externally, and Eternally.”

    Great! there is a sign somewhere that has a catchphrase on it but, let’s forget the Bible verse that reads Psalm 104:14-15 states that God gives wine “that makes glad the heart of men.” of course there are more than just that and there are more in the Bible that shun it. The point being is it’s not a great source of information when making a point. There’s God’s word saying one thing in a positive way 15 times about drinking and another about the bad 75 times in the same book. I’m just saying if that’s an authority on how to live then it needs to be clear in what it says and have credibility behind what is written. A sign is nothing more than a sign.

    The third point “Both those who regard sex as being acceptable outside of marriage, as well as those who think of sex as dirty and wrong within marriage, are equally guilty of maintaining attitudes which are destined to cause serious trouble to any family relationship” here again is there any statistics that show avid religious practisioners i.e. the one’s who praise their practises so much that they reguard sex as dirty as having more failed marriages than those who don’t. Is there proof that polyamorous relationships fail more often then monogamious? It’s an opinion that to you this is why it fails. I would argue this is where immaturity (which was one of the points touched on loosely and pertained to age as opposed to actual mental maturity) plays in. If two mature people get together and are agreeable to the extent that no sex or sex outside of marriage is okay then those two people are probably actually okay with it.

    Anyway, just mainly trying to share sequitor view vs a non sequitor one.


  4. Modern Man

    3 years ago

    The information on this page is highly old-fashioned as if the author has lived in a cave since those guys have written, developed and changed the words of Bible.

    My message for him/her isto wake up and look around yourself. Live with reality.


  5. amber

    2 years ago

    miscommunication!


  6. Cybervang

    2 years ago

    Marriage is an illusion. A temporary solution to a fantasy of sexual convenience and security. Once you have a child with them and complete what mother nature intended, they are bored of you. Almost anything you say or do can and will annoy them. Eventually it’s over and both move on to a new greener pasture with new things to eat and reproduce.

    Darwin’s Theory holds true.


  7. Yacob Ghale

    2 years ago

    hi this is me yacob who is writing thesis on the topic of divorce, especially IMMATURE ATTITUDE – “If this doesn’t work out, we can just get a divorce.”

    This attitude is incredibly naive. It suggests that there is no commitment, no purpose to the marriage other than one’s own gratification. A marriage has to be more than other relationships. It needs a level of commitment that you’re unwilling to give to any other human on this planet.

    A marriage needs a burning desire to work through any problem, overcome any obstacle, and defeat any trial. If you’re hoping that your marriage will be eternal bliss, you are sadly mistaken. All marriages have struggles, and it is the struggles that bind us closer together, propel us beyond our own selves, forces us to reevaluate our priorities, and focuses us on the true riches in life.

    Without these struggles you are only a two dimensional personality with no depth and little understanding of what a deep relationship really is. Learn to stick things out. Difficulties are bound to come. You’ll undoubtedly get hurt at some point or another…but if you have not the strength to overcome it, you’ll never experience the incredible joy that comes from a deep, lasting relationship.

    Look, you will always be hurt the most by people that you love the most. That is just the way it is. If you love the person you are married to, then he or she will undoubtedly hurt you at some point. Stick it out. Whether the storms so that you may find the joy and happiness you claim you seek.

    People who bounce from marriage to marriage never really understand this. They use divorce as an escape because they can’t handle difficulties.

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    in the church of dhading


  8. Yacob Ghale

    2 years ago

    hi it is good for my thesis research especially in the churches of dhading
    i hope that it will for my proper studies . thankyou


  9. JennPa

    2 years ago

    I got divorced in Thailand last year and possibly could have prevented it if my ex-husband and I had not been tempted by number two on this list. I can definitely say that booze hurt my marriage very much. We were so excited about moving to Bangkok together. The move actually brought us closer, but we were not ready for the reckless lifestyle that we chose once here. We would go out, planning to party together and with our friends in Bangkok, and we would return home at each other’s throats and vocalizing all of our pent up emotions. Number 2 on this list ruined my marriage and many others…excessive alcohol consumption should not be mixed with marriage. Since my divorce, I no longer mix cocktails with love, affection, and romance. Thanks for this post.


  10. Tej

    2 years ago

    Marriage is sacred and it is designed by God to us.


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