Communication In Marriage



People marry because they want to spend the rest of their lives with their partner. They have every hope of growing together and creating a relationship that makes them feel emotionally healthy. To achieve this goal, you have to pay great attention to the skills of communication because communication in marriage is the key to a successful marriage. In the order of least to most difficult, there are five communication levels, which are sharing general information; sharing facts; sharing opinion and beliefs; sharing feelings and emotions and sharing needs, intimate concerns, hopes and fears. So the key point is sharing your mind with your spouse.


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However, nowadays, people are self-centered and usually neglect the value of communication, and its importance in relationships, on the job, in marriages, and in all aspects of our lives. People may get into trouble in their communication in marriage because they have not developed their ability to listen and communicate, which will prevent people from communicating effectively: not knowing how to communicate properly; not taking the time to think through what they want to say; not taking the time to anticipate what their partner might be thinking and feeling; fear of revealing too much of themselves; fear of their partner’s anger and not wanting to hurt their partner’s feelings

What cause those problems of communication in marriage? It is because the couples may have different backgrounds, perspectives, personalities, and professions. Some couples may keep misunderstanding all inside to avoid the confrontation, but that does not make the relationship any healthier. Couples need to find an effective method of communication. Couples must learn to understand each other better and recognize and accept each other’s point of view.

How to be a good communicator in the course of the communication in marriage? You should know a few communication skills required. First, bear in mind that verbal ability is a beautiful gift, but it can turn ugly if abused. There are some communication firecrackers that you must not throw in your argument, or they will spread and intensify the conflict and make the things even worse. Besides, active listening is a way of communication in marriage that creates the important climate of acceptance and understanding. Active listening is a valuable skill because it demonstrates that you understand what your partner is saying and how he or she is feeling about it. Actively listening does not mean agreeing with the other person. The point is to demonstrate to your partner that you intend to hear and understand his or her point of view. This is good for your relationship. In addition, apology is a special way for demonstrating your empathy and acceptance. A person may be sincerely apologizing and yet, the apology is not perceived as sincere because it is spoken in the wrong language. The five distinct languages of apology are: expressing regret; accepting responsibility; making restitution; genuine repentance and requesting forgiveness.

Learning to have effective communication in marriage is one of the most important aspects of marriage that a couple can work on. To some extent, effective communication is something that can be taught. You can learn to handle confrontations of communication in marriage as learning an art like dance. You should know the basic steps to master the dance of communication. It is also something that should come from the heart. And also remember—effective communication takes practice.


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13 Comments → “Communication In Marriage”


  1. denisse gallardo

    6 years ago

    Do you believe in getting married first, than living with the person?


  2. denisse gallardo

    6 years ago

    Or is it better to live with your partner first, than go into marriage?


  3. ted

    6 years ago

    I believe living with your boyfriend/girlfriend first before getting married would be better. Because you are going to live with them when you two get married, so you should move in together to see eachother’s habits and see if marriage is really possible or not.


  4. robin

    6 years ago

    staying togather be marriage is the best way to go


  5. claudia

    6 years ago

    I have been doing so research on divorce and addiction, and I stumbled upon a website full of statistics about marriage and it said that couples who live together before marriage actually have a higher rate for divorce as of 2010. I personally dont know why, it seems like a trial run. But I do see how waiting until after being married can be beneficial because your husband/wife somewhat annoying habits seem endearing versus just annoying after so many years of already living with the person. Also, if you live with the person before getting married you may be expecting that person to change and it probably will not happen. So if they dont pick up their laundry before you get married chances are that he wont JUST BECAUSE HES YOU HUSBAND NOW..


  6. sanet laagan

    6 years ago

    I agree with you very much Miss. Claudia. I believe that! coz that’s happened to my some friends and I saw also to the people around me. sorry my english… thnkz for this wonderful sites! love it!


  7. grace

    6 years ago

    Its very important that you live together before marriage, in order to know each other better, because many do change BADLY after marrige.


  8. sam

    6 years ago

    I agree with claudia, and i don’t think you should live together before marriage because according to my faith, it’s wrong. We all make our own choices and our share of mistakes, but you live and learn.

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  11. ewang

    5 years ago

    it is but normal that u need to know the person you want to get married to,for so period of time say 6 months recommended by God,courtship is very important it makes you know the person you want to marry


  12. Bethany

    5 years ago

    When couples live together before they are married they have a much larger chance of getting divorced. The reason for this is that people that say “hey let’s move in together” do not have the full commitment to get engaged instead it is a trial run. Once the two live together it is as if they are married anyway so they go ahead and get married. However, due to the lack of commitment when they moved in together it transfers over into marriage, they just see marriage as a document, not a true commitment.


  13. Candiea

    5 years ago

    My sons father & i have lived together on and off for 5 years now n been together for almost 7 years… We have discussed marriage but there was no real commitment until now from both ends. We just recently .oved back in together but are engaged as of New Years Day of 2012 & plan to marry next year. We are starting to communicate better than before bc we have been seeking counseling since August of last year.


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