Comments on: Divorce Rates In America

By: your enemy

your enemy — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:44:54 +0000

u dumb,idiot, dummy rather then trying to degrade god try and get a life and stop acting as if you know it all

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Newlyweds: Nick And Not Jessica | Tokii Lab — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 23:26:13 +0000

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Whose Home For The Holidays? | Tokii Lab — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 22:51:05 +0000

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By: digchild

digchild — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 12:18:24 +0000

Marrying too early in life,infidelity,being unable to get along and disagreements over money issues are the most common causes of divorce.Divorce is a very sad situation,so I think more has to be done to lower divorce rates in America.

By: duddy

duddy — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 02:21:57 +0000

I think its irrational and selfish to have children just to save a marriage.Yes, not having children with someone does increase your chances of getting a divorce,but that’s only because you will not be forced to stay with that person you have no interest in, or for the sake of the children. When couples are forced stay within the obligation of marriage , it often lead to problems i.e domestic abuse,depression,infidelity etc…..Which inevitably leads to a nasty divorce.

By: Nik

Nik — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 21:28:31 +0000

Theo, First off hang in there. The first year of marriage is really really hard. No one should make any decisions during the first year. YOu shouldn’t give up and neither should your wife. First year = challenge. You’ll get through it all. I’ve been married 5 years now and the first year (or first 3-4) was very difficult.

Secondly, have you talked to your wife about the involvement of her family and friends in your married life? That is one huge mistake that people make. Telling our family and friends all about our marriage problems is very dangerous. She should take care to solve the problems between the two of you, instead of ‘sharing her thoughts and feelings’ with others. Family and close friends will usually side with their loved one. Once this divide is caused in a marriage, it become difficult to work together as a team in order to solve your conflicts. Also, if she is emotional, she may listen to bad advice and instead of working through the issues, she may be told to give up. People need to stay out of your ‘issues’ and let you the two of you solve them.

My husband used to tell me ‘it is the two of us who got into this, we are the two to work it through.’
I am not saying you cannot see a counselor, pastor, or therapist, but NOT family. Tell her even if it causes a fight. She will think about it and perhaps change.

Lastly,together try to identify some of the negative patterns you learned as children. I mean- did you all grow up in fighting? alcoholism? divorce? anger? abuse? or loving and supportive homes. Talk about the dysfunctions and how your family dealt with conflict. Try to identify potential ‘pit falls’ you grew up with and change them.
Be open- both of you- and vulnerable to see each other as a FRIEND. That way, you will stop the power struggle and learn to listen to each other as a team. You are there to help and support one another- even when she says something negative about you and vice versa, there can be truth to it. If she feels heard, she may not want to talk to her family or friends. Listen and respect each other.

Again, hang in there and pray. Marriage takes a lot of patience and hard work. These are things people do not want to do. This article is very true. We want freedom. We want happiness and if you aren’t making me happy- I’m out. Problem is- we are all self-centered and so no one can fulfill that happiness for you. My prayers to you.

By: Theo

Theo — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 11:56:30 +0000

I got married 8 months ago but I am not living a marriage life I think my wife family and her friend do not want for her because her father told me one day that his daughter deserves a better man than and he asks me how I am going to take care of his daughter.We are both christian and I love my wife but I do not think that she loves the way I love but I am trying hard to save my marriage life and I do not believe in divorce. Please help me.

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By: andrew decon

andrew decon — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 10:36:19 +0000

In what religion has marriage ever truly worked thank about it if Christianity worked than its a sin to even think about being with someone else besides your spouse. witch in turn makes that person feel ashamed not worthy of the lord and strive to do better but in doing so creates a more distance between you and your spouse so how does religion govern marriage? It cant for if you give yourself to the lord and repress your natural instincts you can not fully give yourself to your spouse you hold back you lie without even saying a word. you create this image of what the church and society think your marriage should be like instead of finding out what marriage is a union of two people yes i didn’t say a man and woman two people for the betterment for there lifes when you marry yourself to the lord you give up on marrying for yourself. religion should not push to play a factor in ones marriage in turn it can be a cause of divorce. you find your soul mate and she is jewish but your family is stout cathloics but society says you two cant be happy but god tell both of you otherwise in the way you feel about her do you follow your religion and force her to change or do you give up on yours and change how does that help there is always that little voice of resentment in the back of your mind so 9 years later and 2 kids you decide to divorce and in both religions is all most would hear but in truth its the family under god that is sad not the other way around god has a plan but those who spread his word with such misdelusions of the true meaning of marriage are fools. when you marry it should be to love hold and cherish in sickness which includes infidelity that is a sickness be it a mental one still a sickness to not be satisfied by one individual love put aside everyone has to thank of that sooner or later. but does how we are as humans make god upset that he gave us freewill or does it make him proud to see that we created in his image have done the most with our live to take care of another person?

By: John whitlock

John whitlock — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 22:11:12 +0000

It is sad that American marriages are becoming obsolete. The church has been affected by the world where the rate is the same. You don’t see this in other cultures, especially those who value arranged marriages (some less than 1%). Americans need to be more interdependent with our struggles but do this in love, courage and clarity (Romans 12: 9).