Comments on: Open Marriage http://marriage101.org/open-marriage/ Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:44:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: andrew decon http://marriage101.org/open-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-483 andrew decon Wed, 28 Dec 2011 11:01:53 +0000 http://marriage101.org/?p=17#comment-483 to say about the comment of hiv would it not be the same to have a job to save someones life who you didnt know had hiv and you contracted it should you leave your spouse even if you were doing what was right. should you give up on your natural wants and desires to be with another person. those who jump to bring religion into marriage do not know any better the vows we take when we get married are supposed to be forever but god himself didnt make this world or its people to last forever so why should r vows? they should but you have to look at them in a different context just like the bible can be misread so can the truth of what it is to be married to have and hold to love and cherish in sickness and health till death do you part. break it down if you cherish your wife and understand her needs but knowing you can not fufuill them would you not be breaking your vows? In sickness back to my former statement if you were doing the lords work in some 3rd world country and a child with hiv got sick on you and you contracted it would you leave your husband or wife or expect them to work throw it even if it meant for your sexual heath you had to be with another person with hiv so you didnt infect the one you love but in religion thats adultery so you say but in truth its more emotional adultery to not let them youd be breaking your vow. To love someone is to give up your needs and wants for the betterment of another love is not always a good thing sometimes people abuse that love for the own gain. there have been many a priest or pope or religious higher arc who have abused the love of the lord for there own gain history doesnt lie but yet you cling to the judgement of others based those belifes now who doesnt understand you or the person your so eagarly trying to force your view upon to say about the comment of hiv would it not be the same to have a job to save someones life who you didnt know had hiv and you contracted it should you leave your spouse even if you were doing what was right. should you give up on your natural wants and desires to be with another person. those who jump to bring religion into marriage do not know any better the vows we take when we get married are supposed to be forever but god himself didnt make this world or its people to last forever so why should r vows? they should but you have to look at them in a different context just like the bible can be misread so can the truth of what it is to be married to have and hold to love and cherish in sickness and health till death do you part. break it down if you cherish your wife and understand her needs but knowing you can not fufuill them would you not be breaking your vows? In sickness back to my former statement if you were doing the lords work in some 3rd world country and a child with hiv got sick on you and you contracted it would you leave your husband or wife or expect them to work throw it even if it meant for your sexual heath you had to be with another person with hiv so you didnt infect the one you love but in religion thats adultery so you say but in truth its more emotional adultery to not let them youd be breaking your vow. To love someone is to give up your needs and wants for the betterment of another love is not always a good thing sometimes people abuse that love for the own gain. there have been many a priest or pope or religious higher arc who have abused the love of the lord for there own gain history doesnt lie but yet you cling to the judgement of others based those belifes now who doesnt understand you or the person your so eagarly trying to force your view upon

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]]> By: Starr http://marriage101.org/open-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-261 Starr Thu, 02 Dec 2010 15:47:58 +0000 http://marriage101.org/?p=17#comment-261 Fawks -- Who said you were not supposed to become emotionally involved with your partner(s)? Bible quoters -- polygamy and multiple (sexual) relationships were very prevelent in biblical history...There IS a school of thought (differnt from your own, perhaps...does that make it invalid -- or not posssible?) that the idea of "thou shall not commit adultry" is the result of (relatively) post-modern translations of the original content in such a way as to have lost the orinial intent...which would be interesting to ascertain, however, irrevelent to the current discussion. Writer of article - I must disagree with the statement : "However, I can not accept her opinion that to experiment with open marriage, you have to be in an extremely healthy relationship. If you have a harmonious marriage relationship, there seem no reason that you still need the stimuli outside the marriage." I come to this discussion from 10 years of experience and meeting/commiserating and counseling with hundred of people. Polyamory REQUIRES a great deal more "health"/openess/communication and commitment than "normal" relationships. At least in the beginning...in the end (whenever that is)...it should require less "effort"...less "issues" to "work through"...as the REAL issues (usually avoided) get out in the open and resolved... Fawks — Who said you were not supposed to become emotionally involved with your partner(s)?

Bible quoters — polygamy and multiple (sexual) relationships were very prevelent in biblical history…There IS a school of thought (differnt from your own, perhaps…does that make it invalid — or not posssible?) that the idea of “thou shall not commit adultry” is the result of (relatively) post-modern translations of the original content in such a way as to have lost the orinial intent…which would be interesting to ascertain, however, irrevelent to the current discussion.

Writer of article – I must disagree with the statement :

“However, I can not accept her opinion that to experiment with open marriage, you have to be in an extremely healthy relationship. If you have a harmonious marriage relationship, there seem no reason that you still need the stimuli outside the marriage.”

I come to this discussion from 10 years of experience and meeting/commiserating and counseling with hundred of people. Polyamory REQUIRES a great deal more “health”/openess/communication and commitment than “normal” relationships. At least in the beginning…in the end (whenever that is)…it should require less “effort”…less “issues” to “work through”…as the REAL issues (usually avoided) get out in the open and resolved…

]]> By: Fawks http://marriage101.org/open-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-251 Fawks Thu, 18 Nov 2010 22:50:11 +0000 http://marriage101.org/?p=17#comment-251 In theory, this could work, but on a personal level, I think it would be hard for me (as well as some others) to have sexual relations without becoming emotional attachment to my partner. In theory, this could work, but on a personal level, I think it would be hard for me (as well as some others) to have sexual relations without becoming emotional attachment to my partner.

]]> By: open supporter http://marriage101.org/open-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-234 open supporter Fri, 10 Sep 2010 19:29:32 +0000 http://marriage101.org/?p=17#comment-234 Limiting sexual contact to only one partner contradicts millions of years of evolution and is an institution forced upon society by an, at the time, all powerful religious majority. One need only look at the 50% divorce rate, 50-60% infidelity rate for men and, depending on your research sourch, the infidelity rate for women running the gamut from 15-45% to understand that monogamy is failing miserably. Not to mention the fact that how other people live their lives is really none of your business and if it grates against your morality that is your problem. Live and let live is the credo best applied or perhaps let him who is without sin cast the first stone might be more appropriate for those who would stick their nose in other peoples business. Limiting sexual contact to only one partner contradicts millions of years of evolution and is an institution forced upon society by an, at the time, all powerful religious majority. One need only look at the 50% divorce rate, 50-60% infidelity rate for men and, depending on your research sourch, the infidelity rate for women running the gamut from 15-45% to understand that monogamy is failing miserably. Not to mention the fact that how other people live their lives is really none of your business and if it grates against your morality that is your problem. Live and let live is the credo best applied or perhaps let him who is without sin cast the first stone might be more appropriate for those who would stick their nose in other peoples business.

]]> By: ted http://marriage101.org/open-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-230 ted Tue, 07 Sep 2010 22:20:46 +0000 http://marriage101.org/?p=17#comment-230 You are right my friend. You are right my friend.

]]> By: monte smith http://marriage101.org/open-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-182 monte smith Mon, 19 Oct 2009 04:32:24 +0000 http://marriage101.org/?p=17#comment-182 Ok, here's a thought. Thou shalt not commit adultary. Thou shalt not bring home HIV infection. Ok, here’s a thought. Thou shalt not commit adultary. Thou shalt not bring home HIV infection.

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