Save My Marriage



Marriage is the most beautiful relationship that happens to everyone at some point of time. But, because of our immature attitude and impatience, we fail to keep the spark of married life alive. During 10 years of marriage with my wife, I had been accustomed to everything she did to me. I felt splitting headache and thought it was just a dream when I was told she was going to divorce with me because there is no more love in existence. In order to save my marriage from dissolution or divorce–or even a life of distance and boredom with my wife, I began to rethink our marriage life. There must be something wrong with it.

In order to save my marriage, I went out of my way to consult an expert of marriage. She told me: you should first examine what your marriage problems actually are and decide if they are exclusively problems for you or something that you both have. If the marriage problem is unique to you, do correct the problem before you believe that you need to run right out and get a divorce. However, if you truly believe that the marriage problem is caused by your spouse, sit down and examine the root cause of the problem. Make sure that you are logical. Next, approach your spouse with the information that you’ve reflected on and try to talk through the cause of the marriage problem. Hopefully your spouse will be open to constructive discussion regarding the marriage problem so you can work through it together. If you cannot do work on the marriage problem together, seek the help of a mediator or marriage counselor so you can actually talk out the marriage problem logically.

Another key to save my marriage is keeping good communication, either in the form of free talk or hot arguing. When you live with someone for any length of time, you are bound to argue once in awhile. Arguing is a normal and healthy part of any relationship. Like others, we also fight and quarrel for different opinions. So, it is very important to know the art of arguing to save my marriage. I was told that arguing is important to maintaining a healthy, happy relationship. When arguing, you should avoid using the hurtful words since there are millions of words in the English language. An issue should be dealt with as soon as possible, not days, weeks or months later. And about the past: forget it. Then, you should be a good listener. If your partner is trying to tell you something, you need to listen. Everyone hates to be interrupted, and if you interrupt your spouse, they will feel as if you do not care what they are saying. As a whole, the trick to a long-lasting marriage is to know when, and how, to fight fairly. If you treat your spouse with respect, they will more than likely treat you with respect.

I tried the methods recommended by my friend and now there was no barrier in between. So I was so pround of myself that I won the war and saved my marriage.


Category : Marriage

4 Comments → “Save My Marriage”


  1. Robert Scott

    7 years ago

    Hi,

    That was a very interesting post.
    Thank you for sharing it.

    I have also posted my findings on marriage and fidelity issues here at my blog: http://help-save-marriage.org/articles/

    Please take a read.

    All the best

    Robert Scott


  2. esther

    7 years ago

    whao……..
    I Love this, is wionderful


  3. ted

    7 years ago

    Yeah this site is awesome!!


  4. sean

    6 years ago

    Respect and honest are number one always show her you love her daily,hold hands and lots of hugs and kisses. Dont ever get to comfortable and stop showing your love because it could end so fast you wont believe it as mine did after 22 years. I lostmy best friend in the world because i started to take our marriage for granted.


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